“Healthy, lusty sex is wonderful”- John Wayne Many experts agree that oral sex without protection is not as dangerous as vaginal or anal intercourse without a condom. The risks are lower because the lining of the mouth is thicker and stronger than that of the vagina or anus. Also, it’s less likely to cause sores and lesions that facilitate the infiltration of infections in your blood and system. Another extra point on behalf of the greater safety of oral sex: it is believed that saliva contains a substance that weakens the viruses responsible for sexually transmitted diseases.
Despite all these good points, oral sex is still not risk free, and you shouldn’t perform it on someone whose medical record you don’t know, unless you’ve taken the necessary measures of protection.
Here’s a list of the most important ones. Don’t neglect any of them, no matter how unnecessary you might consider them at first glance, or else you’ll end up infected. Since they are easy to follow and don’t take the pleasure out of the act itself, there’s absolutely nothing to complain about.
1. Safe fingering. If you have small cuts, tiny lesions or sores on your fingers, even imperceptible or apparently innocent ones like paper cuts, use medical-grade gloves, to prevent any risk of infection. These gloves are easily found in most pharmacies or purchased online in a myriad of colors and textures. Some even come pre-lubricated or powdered for a more realistic feel.
2. The power of dental dams. Purchase a dental dam specifically made for oral sex; there are some that even come pre-flavored, lubed and/or with a stickable strip at the top of each use. If it’s not lubed, grab your choice of water-based lubricant and apply some to her side of the dental dam. Put it over her entire vulva, covering her Vaginal Opening and Front Commissure.
3. How to keep the dental dam in place. The most ingenious ways to keep the dental dam secure, when you don’t want to use you’re hands because they are busy stimulating other parts of her body:
a) Ask your girlfriend to wear panties with the crotch cut out over the top of the dental dam.
b) Use garters to attach from one side to another, and wrap them around your girlfriend’s leg.
c) Apply spirit gum to temporarily glue the dental dam in place.
5. Don’t hesitate to be more firm. She’ll need a tougher tongue when using a dental dam than without. She won’t be able to feel the friction of your tongue, just the vibrational aspect, which means you should put a bit more effort into licking and sucking, just to make sure she feels it as she would in the absence of the dental dam. You can also use your teeth, but lightly- you don’t want to rip it, but you do want to apply more pressure than you normally would. So, scraping and light biting isn’t taboo here. Other neat tricks:
a) Use the edge of the dental dam and rake it along her Clitoral Head; the feeling is so real-like she won’t even remember you’re not touching her directly on the skin.
b) Roll up the dental dam and use it as a makeshift finger, either to tease her vulva and Clitoral Head, or inside of her against her G spot. Because of the strong lubrication and the little folds in the dental dam, she’ll enjoy every bit of the action.
c) Wrap the dental dam around the top of the Clitoral Head and along the Front Commissure, then push and pull the edges to rub and “shine” it. This is a favorite trick of mine, I love the feeling it gives me and the fact that it covers a pretty large area and it stimulates me more than I would have imagined at first.Have a safely sensual week,
Gabrielle Moore
P.S. If you’re not convinced by these methods, ask your girlfriend to go together for a whole medical check-up. Once you’re both sure that you’re infection free, you can do it however you like!
